The Center for Healthy Sex

Very professional organization - all my interactions and experiences have been enjoyable and helpful. Clinicians are experts in this field and they know how to best offer help.

I'm filing formal complaints against Alex Katehakis w 1) CA Board of Psychology for violations re ethics and negligence and 2) CA Attorney General for discrimination against the disabled. If you are in therapy w her or her center, find a lawyer. If your marriage is suffering because of her "therapy" -- find a lawyer. Ms Katehakis promotes a model based on shaming and vilifying the partner of the abuser. It is an antiquated model developed 30 years ago by 2 old men (Patrick Carnes and then Robert Weiss glommed on). There are many C-SATS-- like Doug Weiss, who practice this highly dysfunctional "therapy." My husband told her he was sober for 4 years, but he still lies and gaslights. She applauded that -- saying i'm still obsessed w his addiction. What moron? What did you stupid mouth just mutter? He's begging you for help -- while not having sex with barely legal women , he's sitll active in the underlying behaviors. She dismisses him and then blames me. Huh? When I met her for the second and last time, she told me I was just as much a part of the problem as my self admitted abuser husband of 10 years. He was an abuser long before he met me at 50-- and yet... I am "equally if not more of the problem." She told my husband, a self admitted abuser that I would never leave him because I"m disabled and need a caretaker -- that I'm needy, and prone to drama and tears. Say what? She just told an abuser -- who still has little insight -- that the person he abuses -- will not leave him because she can't. For an unhealed abuser, what do you think he's going to do? She met me twice -- online. I stopped seeing her after being told i'm part of -- if not the majority of the problem. Recently, my husband attended Dr Omar Minwalla's Be A Better Man 4 day online intensive. Dr Minwalla -- and therapists he has trained (eg. Helping Couples Heal) practice the more recent, progressive and poignant model -- that is all about integrity and accountability. My husband is literally transforming since Dr Minwalla's course. His eyes were finally opened to the dangers of an inept, arrogant therapist who practices an antiquated model that is demoralizing and a hazard to women--- especially if you are handicapped in any way. My husband disclosed how guilty he felt after a year plus with her -- because he didn't push back when she bashed me obsessively. He paid $400/hr (Yep -- $400-- the avg cost of a therapist is $90-$120). He asked me to read his very detailed notes. I was outraged. I sent her a letter, telling her I was filing formal complaints. She told my husband I sent a "scathing rant."Just another way she plants passive aggressive doubts about my character. Reading his notes, she bullied, manipulated and championed him to separate. She told him what he felt. She talked to him like a child. He is now severely depressed -- until Minwalla's intervention. He struggled to push back because she is domineering and threatening. Don't fall for the look -- expressing she understands... or the soft voice -- there is venom lurking. And boy are we paying for it. Dr Minwalla's work is helping undo the expensive damage she inflicted. She completely emasculated him. ETHICALLY NO MARRIAGE COUNSELOR CAN 1) PUSH FOR A SEPARATION (when there is no threat) or 2) concentrate the patient's therapy on the partner (who isn't present). My husband didn't grow. He didn't gain insight. Our marriage was robbed from the opportunity to grow from this. She was hell bent from the start - to push her antiquated destructive cookie cutter approach model. DO YOUR HOMEWORK. There are those who practice this model (generating the highest rate of marital collapse). And there are those who practice BETRAYAL TRAUMA or PTSD approach--or the ACCOUNTABILITY/INTEGRITY approach. Partners need a therapist trained in trauma -- betrayal trauma or PTSD. Abusers need anyone who practices the Minwalla model. Reach out to me if you want more information. This cretan should be locked up.

Service was exceptional.